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Two Sides of the Coin: Tinder Etiquette

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Anonymous 3L Male

What are you looking for on Tinder?

My Tinderella. 

 

What is your Tinder approach?

I see Tinder as very convenient. With our busy law school schedules, it can be difficult to meet people. Tinder exposes you to 1000s of “potential matches.” While Tinder gets ripped on because of how shallow it comes off as, I don’t see it as so. Tinder effectively distills out the people that you can never see yourself as being your “match” because there isn’t an automatic mutual attraction. If there is some mutual attraction, then you have the option to talk to that person. At this phase, if somebody seems interesting and I want to inquire further then I will spark up a chat. If that person seems like the type I would consider meeting up with in real life, I will ask for a number. It is only during the texting phase that I would ask my Tinderella candidate on a date.

 

What is an automatic swipe left?

Automatic left swipes include: pictures with your child, pictures with cats (especially tigers…OMG you’re so adventurous), only selfies, and pictures of your kids’ ultrasounds.

 

What does it take to swipe right?

If the person gives off the vibe that they have a good heart. NOT. It’s a very simple two pronged test that I constructed myself:
1) Is that person attractive? If yes, go to step 2.  If no, swipe left.
2) Does that person have a picture with their child, with their cat(s), only selfies, or pictures of their kids’ ultrasounds? If yes to any of the aforementioned, swipe left. If no, swipe right.

 

What do you do when you see a fellow law student on Tinder?

When I see a law student on Tinder, it is an automatic left swipe. Law school is small enough that meeting someone in law on Tinder is more awkward than anything. 

 

Have you ever met up with a Tinder match?

I met up with a few Tinder matches this summer in Toronto, and it was a mixed bag. I find girls on Tinder fall a lot faster than meeting girls at a bar or…. who am I kidding… meeting girls outside of a bar is virtually impossible. I’ve been on more than one date with only one Tinder match, and it lasted about 3-4 dates. She wanted something more serious, and it ended in Tinder heartbreak.

 

Anonymous 2L Female

What are you looking for on Tinder?

Free wine.

 

What is your Tinder approach?

I see Tinder as a way to combine two of my favourite things: creeping and judging. It is very entertaining to casually swipe left to 30 guys in a row with their first picture being with a sedated tiger in Southeast Asia (no fear, hey?) or holding their prized trout. I try to be selective with my swipes to the right. Before I swipe right, I ask myself, would I actually go out on a date and be seen in public with this guy? If not, then there is no point in initiating contact.

 

What is an automatic swipe left?

If you have a photo posing in front of someone else’s Ferrari. Like OMG, I wonder if that is really his??? I should so date him now. Or a selfie. I could never date a guy that takes more selfies than me. If my first picture isn’t a selfie, yours better not be. Another good approach to get a quick swipe left is a photo of you with a girl. I don’t care if she’s “just your BFF,” I’m going to assume she’s your girlfriend. And we all know you’ll end up with her if she is “just your BFF.”

 

What does it take to swipe right?

Well, let’s not delude ourselves. Tinder is for the superficial… so I am going to go with a bod comparable to Adonis’. Or if you’re cute and really well dressed and/or have a puppy. (If you are posing with someone else’s puppy, I will block you immediately.)

 

What do you do when you see a fellow law student on Tinder?

Thorough creep, and then X. No law school Tindering for this girl.

 

Have you ever met up with a Tinder match?

Yes. I have been on around six Tinder dates. Some were good; some were great, and some were the kind of dates that four vodka martinis can’t make better. This summer, I went on a date with a law student from NYU who was visiting. He told me he eventually wanted to be an Assistant District Attorney in New York. Me, being my not too serious self, said “OMG, how cool. I love Law and Order.” He looked at me like I was the stupidest girl on the planet and replied, “You know that show is fiction, right? It isn’t like that in real life.” (That was the four vodka martini date.)

 

Have you ever been on a second date?

I have been on 4 dates with the same guy… Still going strong. Shocker for those of you who know me! Especially since this whole law school thing has moved me to a different province.

 

Am I looking for anything serious on Tinder?

I don’t think you should ever “look” seriously for anything in life. But it may find you when you are ordering shots of absinthe on a first date on a Tuesday evening.